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All about the Good Vibes Music Fest!

What a day! The good vibes, the people, the accessibility, the music, the vendors, the sponsors and food trucks – everything we hoped for and more! Who doesn’t love a day full of live music created just to have fun alongside deaf/hard-of-hearing friends who are experiencing music too!?

Some may ask what makes it different?  We’re so glad you did!
The stage is set, lights are on, volume turned up and we’re good to go.. not so much. The Good Vibrations Music Festival adds an extra touch to include people often left out by noise. The visual component is what makes deaf accessibility happen – with on-stage interpretation, live captioning, t-coiling, a light up dance floor that synced to the live music, wearable audio technology in the form of backpacks and straps that transform the bass of the live music to be felt individually and a sound wave that bounced to the pitch of the musicians, made a day like September 29th, 2018 a dream for all.

Not only were the deaf/HOH festivalgoers included, which we count as a win, but the hearing community experienced first hand the need for inclusion and awareness on how to do so. Seeing old and new friends connect, hug and converse via ASL or spoken language, was watching our dreams come true. Bridging the gap between the two worlds, deaf and hearing, is something Aid the Silent strives to build.

No doubt this day would have happened without some amazing organizations and people behind them, rooting for a cause – eitoftx.com / cochlear.com / pcsi.org / gordonhartman.com / heb.com / rudkinproductions.com / captionsource.com / sa-interpreters.com / sahealth.com / and MANY more!!

Shout out to our people for trekking to the Sunken Garden Theater for some good tunes, grub, fun and supporting benefiting nonprofit Aid the Silent. We’re so glad you did.. and we miss you already! We hope you make plans to come see for yourself the fun that is the GOOD VIBRATIONS MUSIC FEST 2019.

 

Jennie
Aid the Silent Events

SA’s Good Vibrations Music & Arts Festival Is Like Coachella With a Real Cause

SA’s Good Vibrations Music & Arts Festival Is Like Coachella With a Real Cause After the millennial-music-festival giant Coachella was recently slammed for questionable donation habits, a whole slew of flower-crown-wearing, flash-tattoo-clad attendees were left wondering: Is it ethical to attend a festival whose values they couldn’t get behind? While there’s no easy solution to this Coachella paradox, Texas music lovers can breathe easy knowing San Antonio’s upcoming Good Vibrations Music & Arts Festival is, through and through, an event with not only a great cause, but a unique one. Hosted by Boerne-based nonprofit Aid the Silent (an organization focused on advocating for the deaf and hard-of-hearing community), Good Vibrations is a festival that seeks to include the very community many would discount as “impossible” to include at a live music event: persons with hearing loss. By partnering with hearing-solution industry leaders, Aid The Silent has created a truly innovative all-accessible festival. The lineup, which will include popular musicians like Parachute, American Idol winner Kris Allen, and singer-songwriter duo Penny & Sparrow, will feature ten hours of real-time captioning, sign language interpretation, looping technology that transmits sound directly into hearing aid wearers’ devices, backpacks that transmit sound into vibrations, an LED dance floor, and a visual sound wave board that is synchronized to the tempo of the music. As pioneers of this new kind of multi-sensory event, the Good Vibrations Music & Arts Festival was the first of its kind to include deaf accommodations to this magnitude: an effort that has not gone unnoticed. Last year, the San Antonio area festival won a “Best of the Fests” award for its charitable work at the FestForums Conference awards in Santa Barbara, California. Proceeds from the event will benefit Aid the Silent’s continual efforts to provide opportunities, accessibility, and equality to deaf youth. Aid the Silent’s goal is to give deaf/HOH children the same opportunities to excel as their hearing peers. The festival, which will take place at SABOT’s historic Sunken Garden Theater on Saturday, September 29, 2018 (1:00 to 11:00 PM), is open and welcoming to people of all ages and modes of hearing. (Click here to visit the official website for tickets and information!)

Merry Christmas From Aid the Silent!

Dear Friends, 

I can enter the Presence of the Lord in noisy places. A loud coffee shop can suddenly become silent as I take out hearing aids. I can sit and listen, be still without the noise of the world swarming around me. Jesus’ voice meets me in the silence. In some countries, deafness is viewed as a curse and those who are deaf are ostracized. 

After Miss Texas, I felt pulled in a million different directions, some opportunities came about for me to just keep pursuing the next thing, the next chance in the spotlight. I battled it out in my heart for a month, asking the Lord for a definite answer on my next season. I heard clearly in my heart “stay grounded.” As I sat with Him more, I learned that this meant He was asking me to do the hard nitty-gritty work, the stuff that no ones sees in the spotlight. I have been a part of planting a lot of beautiful ministries these past two and a half years, but the time has come to sit on the ground and tend to what I have started. He hit me with the fact that a truly healthy ministry can operate without me and that I needed to invest in and raise up a team of people. The work I am doing has to have a lasting Kingdom legacy, it needs to continue long after I am out of the picture. He has asked me to bring three boxes of my life to the forefront… Aid the Silent, finishing school and Deaf Young Life (DYL). After a semester of doing the hard work, especially the late nights that no one sees on social media, I’m beginning to see the fruitfulness of how relational connections change everything. Another program does not change lives, but relationships and people knowing that they belong, does. It is a joy to share the good news of witnessing deaf people take radical steps into truly living. 

In Deaf Young Life, all of our leaders have completed training and are officially reaching into the lives of deaf teenagers. A lot of deaf children who sign, do not always have parents who can communicate in their own language. I think a lot about that dinner table time and how lonely that can feel. Every Thursday morning, the DYL team goes on campus to serve tacos to create a “dinner table” space. Recently, we had a Friendsgiving and I was floored as they helped me in the kitchen and as we shared in sign what we were thankful for. Many of them shared being thankful for DYL and the leaders coming into their lives. As we share lives and shed tears over our deaf friends, we are seeing hearts soften and open up. Crazily enough, many leaders have run into their students all over the city. Now San Antonio is massive and the deaf teenage population is tiny in comparison, yet God crosses our paths with them in the most unlikely of places. It seems to me that God cannot help but bring the deaf to Himself. 

I attended a seminar hosted by Pioneer Bible Translator and their partner, Deaf Missions, as they shared the news of the Good News reaching the deaf all across the world. Isaiah 29:18 says, “the deaf will hear the words of the book.” I am sure the prophet Isaiah never would’ve imagined the deaf would “hear” the Gospel through ASL video translation and the Deaf Bible app. Historical and Biblical prophecy is taking place in our lifetime as the first ever fully-translated Bible for the deaf will be released in 2020. Only 50 percent of the Old Testament is left. Can you imagine a walk with Jesus without the Word of Jesus in tangible form? My heart aches. 

There is a stirring in our world as more and more people groups that have long been ignored are finally being brought into the light to experience the Light of the World. Reaching the deaf is a part of a larger Gospel movement and I am honored that our work through Aid the Silent is on this battleground. 

Every day we learn about new challenges our deaf and hard-of-hearing children face in their everyday lives. We work tirelessly with parents, teachers, school nurses, speech therapists, interpreters, doctors and audiologists to help in any way we can. Every one of these kids wants to be accepted, appreciated, loved and understood. Our organization strives to provide ways to offer all those things to them. 

We humbly ask you to consider making year-end gift to Aid the Silent while you are planning your tax deductible, end-of-year giving so we can help the hundreds of deaf and hard-of-hearing children in need. 

Thank you so much for your prayers, generosity and being a part of Isaiah 29:18. 

 

With much love, 

Emma Faye Rudkin

Founder of Aid the Silent 

Miss San Antonio 2017 and 2015 

In Stillness

The moment I take out my hearing aids, I am in stillness and silence. I see mouths moving and feel a faint mumble of voices. In the stillness, I am often met by Jesus and He speaks loudly as I tune out the world’s noise. I have to remove the middle man that causes chaos to reach the Author’s truth. Physically, I can tune out the world’s noise but emotionally and spiritually, it is a more difficult task.

I have to remove the barriers, the places that cause me to lend a ear to other than Jesus’ voice. He has much better things to say! The lies, past hurt and damage. Present sins, distance and circumstances. All these seek to distract me from a solid place of Jesus. If I remove what I’m listening to other than Jesus, then I hear Him clearly and steadfastly in order to respond Kingdom-Minded to my circumstances, damage and barriers.

“Be still, and know that I AM God…” (Psalm 46:10)

-Emma Faye Rudkin | Founder Aid the Silent

Dealing with Social Growth

For any parent, middle school is a scary time of our growing children. For pre-teens and teens who are deaf or hard-of-hearing, the concerns are 10-fold. Another one of our readers sent in this question. Here is Kathy’s take on it.

Q: My daughter started her first day of 6th grade a few weeks back, and on top of the typical middle-school obstacles we expected to face, it has been a challenge to keep her confidence up. Till now, she’s always been proud, motivated, and outgoing. Now she has become concerned with wearing her hearing aids, getting behind in class and, of course, the usual concern—making friends. Any advice you have to offer will be greatly appreciated. – Concerned Dad in Dallas

A: Kathy: Dear Concerned Dad, your worries are right on point for this point in their lives. What your daughter is experiencing was very similar to Emma’s experience—hitting about the same age when kids start realizing there are differences among them. Having walked this journey for so long, and alone (90% of hearing impaired or deaf children are born to hearing parents), I would be happy to share our successes and failures. Most parents who have hard-of-hearing/deaf kids have no clue what to do and there is so little help. Being aggressive is key, but it’s a lonely journey and a daily battle.

We went through the same thing of the all the social stigmas and feelings of being left out or not fitting in. That is probably Emma’s hardest thing to deal with still—feeling socially left out just because you cannot hear what is going on. Most people don’t realize as a HOH or deaf individual you can’t hear in social settings. You can’t hear multiple people talking, you can’t talk on a phone, or hear in a car or hear behind you. You can’t hear in restaurants, or hear your classmates in class, you can’t hear the preacher, you can’t hear the words to songs, you can’t her the audio on TV or movies, you can’t hear at the football games or the dances . . . the list goes on and on and isolation and loneliness sets in.

 

As long as you continue to show her support and walk with her through these changes, she will do awesome and learn to navigate this as she grows.

 

Grammar school was rough, middle school was horrid and about 11th grade things started to change for the better—but those early teens years can be really long and difficult. It is a hard time for normal hearing kids at that time in their life, but you add this in and its rough, but there is hope and a light at the end of the tunnel.

Emma was very consumed with the look of deafness (speech and aids) and being labeled the “deaf girl.”

At this point in our lives, we are on the other side of the mountain and can look back at all the years and years of hardships, struggles and heartbreaks and see His plan was already in place for Emma’s life and we didn’t even realize it. I wish my younger self could have seen into the future that it was going to be alright. It was not always easy and was a long, long journey but now we see His redemption and His faithfulness. I think if someone could wave a magic wand and make Emma hear – she would choose not to – she has embraced this and this what makes her Emma.

 

Couple of things I want to share of just years of trial and error.

 

1. Aggressive Speech therapy is crucial to fitting into a hearing world. We did this from 4 years old to 9th grade . . . fought Emma on it from 6th grade on.

2. Education—do not hold them back—they can do it. Brain works fine, just the ears don’t. Education is freedom.

3. Hearing aids and FM system are not optional—this was a struggle during the early teen years because it points out the differences to classmates. Emma won’t live without it now and still uses it in college along with a captionist. In most public school systems, they provided this for the child.

4. Meet with every teacher each year (even if it six teachers). Go over hearing audiograms, equipment, limitations. I had an audio I played for them to show them how she heard and helped them really understand the magnitude of the hearing loss. I also had several pages typed up that I would leave with the teachers of ways to teach someone who is deaf or hard-of-hearing. Go on every field trip or school outing that is possible. Let her see you advocate the system for her. Emma is now her own advocate, but she watched us fight through it for years.

5. Get involved in church youth groups or faith-based organizations. Get her into faith-based camps with close friends so she feels secure going and let her tell her story. Camp was a huge turning point for Emma and the start of her telling her story, hardships and her testimony to help others. It gave the focus to others and not putting the focus on herself and her problems. The key is you can’t focus on yourself when you are focusing on others. Volunteering is another avenue.

6. Encourage social media and phones—this goes against every parenting advice, but I started this early because she needed a way to be connected to her peers and be social. HOH/deaf individuals can’t hear on phones and being social is a hard thing for them in this technology-rich world. Texting is a huge part of Emma’s social life even today and my main communication with her as college student. I let her get a phone and allowed her to be on social media around 6th grade, which is really early. Now Emma did not face any bullying, although exposed to very insensitive kids, she was never bullied probably due to a small Christian school. So depending upon the environment at her school, this would need to be considered when allowing social media early. You can start with Instagram and then move onto others later when her friends start getting Facebook and Twitter accounts. You don’t want to open the doors for her to be bullied but if you think that is not an issue—I would start it early.

7. Do not set limits nor did we let her use it as a crutch. This was probably the most important thing we did for her. We never told her she couldn’t do something and set the bar really high—probably too high is some instances. Sometimes they need to take a few days to grieve about something (and the parents too) and that’s OK. But we very much said, “Life isn’t fair and unfortunately you found out really early.” But we would grieve that day and the next day, we brushed ourselves off and we do life again. Even with schoolwork, sometimes there are times that her hearing did cause a problem and we would fight to the death to make it right with the school, but then there were times she would try to use the hearing as a crutch and we would call her on it and say it is harder for you, but you can do this. I would say do not enable, they can do it. Again brain works, ears don’t.

8. Get involved. Whatever interests her push her to do it. Try out for cheerleading, sign up for the talent show, take music lessons, take art lessons, tryout for sports—whatever makes her tick push her. Don’t be limited by the hearing. You can make the hearing loss work with some adjustments.

9. Caption everything that has it. Leave captions on all the TV in your home and part of the family and “not just for her.” You will end up loving it yourselves. Captions make entertainment possible. Also looking up the words to music is key. Emma has the phone in her hand and is all the time looking up words to songs as she hears them so she know what it says. HOH/deaf are very visual and usually memorize quickly. When Les Miserables came out in the theater, before Emma went to see it, she looked up all the words to the songs so she would enjoy the experience. Also look for theaters that provide captioning machines so she can see movies with captions. Captions also make for really good readers and reading is a huge part of a person’s life with hearing loss. You don’t have hear well to read and get lost in a book.

10. Get her involved in the advocacy. It is personal fight. Fight for captions, fight for t-coil loops, fight for deaf rights and fight for insurance to cover hearing aid costs. It is the most overlooked group of folks and it becomes a battle worth fighting for and should be something that is a passion for her.

11. Cultivate those friends who are compassionate. Have them over, plan fun things, make your house the house everyone wants to be at. Talk to the parents of the friends and let them know the struggles so they can talk to their children. I’ve even had teachers have me come into the classroom and explain it. Most of the time, it is ignorance. People are like “I will talk louder” or they treat her like she’s dumb and over enunciate or avoid her all together because they aren’t sure what to do.

12. Research! There are tons of programs out there to help. In Texas, they offer a Deaf Certificate for paid college tuition to any public universities. Depending upon hearing levels, full tuition is paid for and it does not factor economic status in it. In Emma’s case we had to have her declared legally deaf. Emma was actually relieved to be labeled legally deaf because she felt like she finally fit somewhere—she was in limbo of the hearing impaired and the hearing world. Also in Texas public universities, they have to supply you with a captionist or interpreter depending on your loss. Emma thought she would hate this and be embarrassed, but it is best thing ever. She still uses her FM system and takes her own notes, but loves the captioning and has become really good friends will all her captionists.

 

Whew! That was very long. I hope this is helpful to you and to all other parents and guardians out there who are looking for some answers.
Have a question you’d like to ask Emma or Kathy? Email denise@aidthesilent.com

Deafness as a disability

I recently stumbled upon a question I was asked months ago and thought I would share. I’m sure there are many people out there that feel this way at some point.

Q: Do you ever feel people treat you like you are disabled or don’t take you seriously, and how do you deal with that?
Emma: Weekly, I could listen or over-read into certain encounters. Yet, the choice is mine whether or not to take that as my identity. I used to believe every ounce of being “disabled,” but now I know my lack of being able to hear is my story to proclaim against that label for others.

I know that people just don’t know about my deafness and are curious to know more. Now, I see people’s questions and curiosity as an opportunity to share my story and truth over the situation. I have forgiven people of the past and the ones who will come, because I was first forgiven.

In love and in grace, you change people’s hearts and by being open, you invite others into the authenticity.

The inspiration behind Aid the Silent

It has been a great journey to see how much Aid the Silent has grown in less than a year since its inception. One reader asked how Aid the Silent got started. Here is Emma’s (the founder) answer.

I lost my hearing to a severe pro-found level of deafness when I was three years old. Thankfully, growing up I had access to many resources in order to succeed and not be held back by what was seen as a “disability.” The vision for the nonprofit started after reading some heartbreaking statistics about the deaf. It said, that “45 percent of deaf individuals do not graduate from high school and only five percent from college (Dallas Hearing Foundation). Another source noted that “less than two percent of the deaf have an active relationship with Jesus (Gate Communications). It showed me that I am very fortunate to have been born where I was and to have the parents I do. That stirred something deep within me and drove me to start Aid the Silent.

The dream within me is to point people to deeper and more abundant living. I do not believe we were made to simply exist or to pass people by. I believe that we were made to engage in life and people’s lives head on. For me success is truly helping people and inviting them into more life. I have found the answer for rich living to be in Jesus, and that is why my calling is to share that story with others and what that encounter has done in my life. I have dreams for the Aid the Silent to be an internationally known organization; to give hundreds of resources to disadvantaged deaf and hard-of-hearing children and teens.

Every morning as I wake up and before my feet hits my bedroom floor, I pray, “Let me live not for myself today, but for others.” And that has instantly changed my mindset from “me, me, me” and instead toward caring for others and being intentional with whoever I cross paths with that coming day.